Are You Living With an Alcoholic? Here's What You Can Do.

Are You Living With an Alcoholic? Here's What You Can Do.

If your loved one is excessively consuming alcohol, they will be categorized as high functioning alcoholics. They aren't here to enjoy a nightly glass of indulgence. In fact, their main activity becomes chugging alcohol without hesitation. This drinking problem will not only destroy the victim's health but also relations, stability and peace. If you're in a desperate circumstance, there are a few things you can do.

But Why?

Alcohol is often the most convenient resort for problems which often don't have any easy solutions. Especially stuff which you must come to terms with but are unable to. Inner guilt trips, insecurities, heartache and a myriad of difficult emotions which the person finds it difficult to even share or express often end up sending the victim on the drinking spree. You will hardly come across an alcoholic who doesn't drink to deal with pain. Try to find out this very reason which the victim would most probably be unwilling to share. If you are able to understand his reasons then the rest of the plan could be carved out. Without finding the root cause you would fail to implement the rest of the points. If you are able to hit the right points, it is likely that the victim might turn to you for his emotional needs than to alcohol. 


Improve Your Approach: You need to act with all the power you have. You can begin by using a better approach, a gentler approach. An alcoholic's reaction and treatment might be intolerable each coming day. But you have to hold on to the 'message' that you want them to take seriously. Make sure that they know that you will never give up on them, that you will stick with them through thick and thin. But be careful when you choose the words to confront them. Converse in a supportive and assertive tone. Avoid the 'blame game' at all costs. Alcoholics lack compromising skills. You have to be the mature among the two and handle their stubborn attitude gracefully. Use "I" statements instead of the "you" statements. For example, 'I worry a lot about your health' instead of 'you drink more than necessary'. 


Timing and Circumstance Matters: Bringing a serious conversation cannot be performed at any time and in all sorts of circumstances. You don't want to bring up what's the right thing to do when they are gulping alcohol limitlessly. Pick a calm and private environment and the time when the victim is in their right minds. Be sure when and where you can draw their full attention for important discussions. Make sure that you wouldn't be interrupted by a third party presence. Even if they are sober as judge, do not rant about all the things that needs changes. Place reality checks on the table one at a time. Portray a picture of what should be done in front of them then. Even though the time and place may be right, don't make the error of going negative. As supportive and gentle as you are when they are under influence, do not change your course when they are sober.